"To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved." -George MacDonald

What is trust?

How do we choose those that we deem worthy of our trust?

Almost every single relationship is built on trust.  Friends, family, partners, co-workers, teammates.  It is the foundation of a tower that should only grow taller and taller with love and respect.

But let's say that some foundations are erected using some pretty faulty building codes.  Assume that the builders were sloppy, or just chose to overlook the imperfections.  Suppose the foundation begins to crack, just as something more substantial is being built on it.

All of the sudden, you're left with instability.  Nothing can be built on a cracked foundation.  No matter how extravagant the tower, it will eventually come tumbling down with even the slightest disturbance.

So much time is wasted among the rubble of a collapsed relationship.  At first, you try to pick up the pieces and rebuild from the ground up.  But you're out of money, and energy, and effort.  You soon realize it is useless.  There will be no starting over.  You will have to build a new building entirely, starting with a new,  flawless foundation.

I'm willing to start over and rebuild.  I am willing to save up more time, energy, and effort to create a new foundation, and eventually, a new relationship.

Unfortunately... I'm not sure that I want to.




ELU. ALWAYS.

"A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?" -Albert Einstein

People are insane.  If there is one thing that I can clearly take away from my experiences of growing into adulthood, it's that people are downright crazy.  Not just some people, either.  Everyone is absolutely out of their minds.  

Myself included.

I use a public internet domain as a diary.  Crazy.

Anyways, to my fellow crazy people, I offer some humble advice:

1. Treat your waitress with respect.  Even if you can't tip her well, at least treat her well.  She's serving you a meal she probably can't afford.

2. If you say you're going to do something, do it.  Talk is cheap.  Don't be cheap...

3.  Don't be cheap.  Be frugal. Save money for nice things instead of spending it on cheap things.

4. Don't take the sound of rain on the rooftop for granted.  You'll probably live in a dorm room/apartment/prison cell/mom's basement at some point in your life where little things like this are impossible to appreciate.

4. Please, for the love of all that is good and just on the Internet, do not publicize your personal life via Facebook/Twitter/Blogspot (ha..ha.....at least no one reads this). I don't care if you found the absolute perfect depressing quote from The Notebook to express your current relationship status.  Refrain.

5. Manicures are well worth the money.

6. Manners are more important than almost anything.  There isn't a person in this world who doesn't appreciate "yes ma'am" or "no sir."

7. Read lots and lots of books. Twilight doesn't count.

8. Make sure the family recipes are written down and can be passed down.  I sure do miss my grandma's meatloaf.

9. Be able to tell the difference between the friends who will be there and the friends who are simply there. 

10. Don't judge.  You don't know.  You have no idea.